SOL17: Allowing Space

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The other day I was talking with someone about this time of year.  In the past, the holidays have been difficult for me.  I’ve come to understand that my childhood was rooted in family traditions.  Grandmothers visited with regularity as did my father’s sister.

In my twenties and thirties, I tried to make it home during the holidays as much as I could. And in my first marriage, it was easier as my then husband wasn’t a fan of the holidays.

When I remarried, family holidays became front and center with two teen girls and a tradition of a large Christmas Eve meal and opening presents.  Now the girls are grown (like they have almost teen daughters) and the holidays have changed their shape once again.

It’s not been an easy thing to feel comfortable in the quiet, just-the-two-of-you holiday at home.  It’s been a challenge.  This brings me back to my conversation earlier this month.  I made the statement that I was going to allow space to just be this year.  And if it means to quietly change my mind about attending an event or not, I’m okay with that decision.

I’m not sure when I have allowed space during the holidays.  But I feel at peace with it.


Welcome in 2018 with the second annual New Year Postcard Exchange.  Details HERE. Postcards can be mailed in time for Chinese New Year in February.


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2 Responses to SOL17: Allowing Space

  1. Maureen says:

    This is a beautiful goal for holidays – “to allow space to just be”. Thank you for sharing!

  2. mbhmaine says:

    I can really relate to this post. I wrote about similar feelings over Thanksgiving and shared the poem “Thanksgiving for Two” by Marjorie Saiser. You might want to check it out.

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